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The Birth of Baby Boy Taamit
|Posted by novakafele on April 14, 2021 at 4:15 PM|
Sallasie RA TuTu
|Posted by novakafele on November 19, 2019 at 9:35 AM|
Do you know that you are special? If you are reading this book that means you are especially special. How can you tell that you are special? Each time you look into a mirror and smile there is a special someone looking back at you, it’s you!
This story is about the birth of a very special boy name Salassie RA TuTu.
The day that Salassie RA TuTu was born was exciting and amazing night for all who witnessed his birth.
His Mommy called me and said she felt the baby coming. I got my things and dashed out of the door so I would not miss his arrival. She told me that she and his Daddy had been cleaning and preparing the house for his arrival. Lots of sweeping, mopping and washing clothes, shifting things around all for Salassie. He would be born at home so his parents had to make a fuss to make sure everything was just right for when he came.
When I arrived Salassie’s home smelled so good. His Daddy has a pot of Ital stew on the stove and Mama was folding and I began to help her. Kwame, his big brother was in bed but not yet asleep. His big beautiful smile was filled with excitement but after a short time he fell asleep.
Meanwhile, I put lemongrass and clary sage oils all around after tidying the bathroom so when Salassie RA Tutu’s Mama used it she would feel calm and smell nice smells. As soon as I was done she told me she felt that baby Salassie was coming so we all, Daddy, Mama & I set up your birthing area which was right in their bedroom.
Before we all knew it Mama’s laboring became stronger and stronger and the contraction rushes lasted longer and longer. Daddy was near by in the living room sitting in his favorite chair playing his flute. Daddy knew Salassie’s planetary coordinates and predicted about when he would come. He continued to play a beautiful melodic melody that ushered their beautiful baby boy in. Salassie could hear his Daddy’s flute and his soul knew exactly where to land.
By this time Mama was putting up with a lot of pain. She was easy, she was calm but the rushes and pain became stronger and stronger. This went on for a few hours until finally, Mama was ready to push Salassie through. I sat behind Mama to comfort her letting her know she was doing a good job and keeping her in her flow when all of a sudden a tiny little mouse showed his head and then his entire body from under the dresser. I did not want to alarm Mama because she may have been scared. The little mouse sat there without as much as a peep as if he was watching us.
It all seemed as if it were a dream when Salassie RA TuTu appeared. It all happened so fast and Daddy was right there to catch their beloved baby boy. I turned my head to look for the tiny mouse and he was gone.
Later, after Salassie was settled in his Mommy’s arms I told Mommy & Daddy what I saw. Daddy was alarmed and told me that I should have said something and I told him that I did not want to make Mommy scared. (Sometimes women are afraid of mice). Mommy agreed and we all had a perfect thought. That thought was that mouse represented an ancestor of Salassie RA TuTu’s Family. Ancestors are spirits of the love ones who lived before us who are no longer alive on earth. Animals or insects will show themselves as witnesses of special events such as a birth, wedding or crossing.
After Mama had a rest she gave you your milk and you went sound to sleep. The birds chirped, the wind danced, brother Kwame played his drum and Daddy cooked more food. The whole house was happy and sound and the world couldn’t wait for Salassie to start to grow into a strong Warrior King.
Starlilly Doula Review
|Posted by novakafele on July 17, 2017 at 10:40 PM|
My baby and I battled thrush on and off for two out of the three months that she has been on this earth. She nor I was getting any sleep because it bothered her to no avail. I tried every conventional remedy that I could find(Nystatin, Gentian Violet, etc). Just when I thought that the thrush was gone it would come back with a vengeance. I reached out to Nova and theee days later I received the Oral Health treatment. The treatment got rid of the thrush and it hasn't returned. This product is great because I can also use it to brush my teeth as well. Thank you Nova you are truly an insightful spirit.
Sista Goddess Alva
October 26, 2016
I am 20 weeks pregnant with fibroids surrounding my baby, Starlilly was referred to me by another Goddess. She is assuring and keeps you at ease. I'm appreciative that I met her.
Jan 16, 2017
|Posted by novakafele on July 17, 2017 at 9:50 PM|
I found Sister Nova by pure synchronicity, my I am so blissed that I did. I attended an Self-Care Yoni Workshop February 5th in Vista, CA. Nova showed such an enthusiasm for her craft, she prepared our space despite difficult circumstances. Our Yemaya Ocean ceremony was gravitational and connecting, stretching on the sand was so incredible, dancing together and giving offering brought a wonderful water vibration that lead into our steam well. When it came to sharing Herbal wisdom, she had so much to share and presented the material with levity. I look so forward to learning more and continuing my training as a Yoni Steam Practitioner under her care.
February 19, 2017
Sis Mikaela Valentino
I don't think a simple review will help you truly understand the gift & blessing of working with Nova. The only way to truly comprehend who she is, her extensive knowledge, & spirit is to be in a room with her and allow her warmth, love, compassion, & nurturing spirit to embrace you. I had the pleasure of spending the entire day with her. Although I had just met her, I felt like I've known her for years. With all of the practices, sharing of experiences, yoni steaming, pampering, her angelic voice, & great cooking skills (except the banana patties...lol), I left renewed & rejuvenated. I'm thankful & honored to have Nova in my circle of sistahs!!!
September 12, 2016
My auntie has a great thing with her yoni steam. I enjoyed every minute of my experience. I think that this is something every women should try. I felt rejuvenate and refreshed right after; I had a great night sleep and extremely motivated the next day. Thank you auntie!
February 16, 2017
My Niece, Goddess Miyoshi
I had the pleasure of experiencing the Level 1 Starlilly Yoni Steam Training and i am so glad that I did. Nova is lovingly committed to the physical and spiritual healing of our community, as evidenced by the care and attention to detail she took to create an unforgettable experience. This is divine wisdom and knowledge that all women should have for our own healing and for the guidance of young women under our care. I look forward to continuing my growth and development with Starlilly, as i encourage others to do the same.
March 6, 2017
Daddy's Take on Birthing
|Posted by novakafele on July 2, 2017 at 3:10 AM|
I thought the Brothas responses were so precious I had to do as I said and post them. I entitled this blog entry, "Daddy's Take" because when it comes to pregnancy and the birthing process, soon-to-be Dads or experienced Daddy's seem not to receive the attention, love and light that they deserve. Especially the true Brothas who are involved, in tuned or showing growth in the area of a Warrior nurturing and responding to his Goddess.
I conducted a study earlier in the year asking Men I Respect in the Community their view on the importance of Home Birth; are they comfortable with the birthing process and what is their perspective of the womb and the protection of the womb.
One of my good Brothas response went this way....
Ques1 "I feel there are many benefits from birthing at home in comparison to tha horspitals. First off, they wanna cut first and ask questions last and the bright lights are a negative; some stranger making first contact with the baby....I could go on, and I most definitely see more pros than cons of birthing at home". Ques2 "I'm comfortable with the birthing process my firstborn was a natural delivery and although in the horspital my queen rejected and medication or drugs and I was comfortable being apart of it". Ques3 Yes, "I feel i am a protector of the sacred womb especially nowadays being that we are at war and to be honest who can you trust? Things involving this to me is not allowing my daughters as best as possible to not carry a bunch of books in their bookbags becuase I know it places stress on their wombs/ Also it is important to not put a lot of stress and strain on the mother-to- be but, also having a exercise regimen in place for mom so she strengthens herself for the whole process. I know diet is important when bringin these divine beings through the womb portal.
Nova, I hope this helps in your production of your book peace and blessings".
Thanks Bro PB your respose resonated with me deeply.
Thanks Bro JL! Mighty words of wisdom here.
"I reverence the womb. I believe it is the physical workshop of God. As I enter the sexual act with intention, my thoughts are inspired by the ultimate desire to push my genetic material into the future. I, by the grace of THE God, am allowed to use the workshop. The workman does not leave the mission of building undone. He sees this creation through, with the original intent, to its eventual perfection. The home birth is optimal because you are introducing the new life into its place of eventual rulership. If you produce a king or queen they should have a castle to rule. I would love the entire family to be at least in the home while the thought is born from the spiritual into the physical world." "PEACE!"
"Benefits of home birth: opinion surronuded by mostly familiar energy. Less shock and awe on the soul that is entering. Assuming the umbilical cord would not be clipped. No blinding lights on the new being. Possibly less throat chakra "abuse" from screaming, and crying from all of the aforementioned. I feel child birth is a wonder filled experience, and wonderful too. I would love to be present, and supportive of my partner, and our new being honoring a covenant. I think a woman is the protector of her vagina. Trust her own instincts, intuition, and mind. If not, then keep him/them out of it.
Good points! I feel the seriousness within your thoughts. Thanks Bro EI
"I feel that u should protect the woman at all costs. If she truly ur woman there's no to put her at risk cause u trying to do extra out there. The last thing u wanna do is pass something onto her that would cause physical harm to her. That not only will damage her physically, it will damage her mentally as well." " To avoid that, keep it 100..."
Well said Warrior Bro SW and we give thanks!
Cultural Ceremony; The Ceremony of Bleeding
|Posted by novakafele on October 27, 2015 at 11:25 PM|
This article is so worthy of attention and reading. Please visit the blog link above and give the author positive vibes for this beautiful piece of information that we as women from every culture and tribe can relate to.
In Western culture, our women do not have the societal right to hold menstrual traditions while functioning in society. Whereas in many cultures, women have the foundation of cultural heritage to remove themselves for the “ceremony of bleeding”, our women simply go to work, business as usual. However, in many of the lineages that I have studied with, and now often teach the essence of their “woman medicine” in my work, this “ceremony of woman”, or “ceremony of bleeding” is considered a sacred time. In order for women to channel the cosmic energies present during this time of “death & rebirth”, a woman needs her isolated space, to which she may conduct any rituals, prayers, or meditations, accordingly.
How many women in our society are fully aware of the 4 phase cycle that occurs each month? Has our society made it possible to at least educate our girls so that they are aware of their own fertility and bleeding schedule, and all of the natural forces that it entails? When a woman bleeds in this culture, is it common practice to call her boss and say “I have begun bleeding and will not be into work for the next 5 (or however many) days”? When a woman achieves her first bleeding, is she met with an initiation ceremony, or is she simply handed a box of tampons by her mother?
These examples, from the stories I’ve been receiving from the women in the U.S., are a tribute to how far removed our society is from the fundamental ceremonies and practices occurring naturally in indigenous societies regarding bleeding and fertility. Red Tent has foundations in the Hebrew culture. In Sun Dance (Lakota) a woman who is bleeding must reside away from the ceremony in a special lodge. In Ayurvedic belief, as in a majority of ancient cultures, a woman has restrictive functions while bleeding. Yet, these practices, to an outsider, may appear patriarchal and female suppressive in nature. However, there is hidden power, and a recognition of that power, in these cultures and we only need to be open, putting our own conditioning aside to see this.
A Look into Vedic Culture of Women: http://www.hknet.org.nz/seX-Vedic-view-of-women.html
In the Washoe tribe of Nevada, a woman fasts for her first bleeding, followed by an intense initiation of a run up 4 mountains (one for each direction), lighting fires for her tribe to see at the top of each. This is her initiation into womanhood. It is believed, in many indigenous American cultures, that the bleeding time is the time to communicate with the Spirits, to converse with the cosmos, and the Sun Dance ceremony itself was created for men to achieve that great blood sacrifice that women give each month.
A Sun Dancer once told me: “The greatest sacrifice and gift that we can make is that of blood. Our blood, our flesh, is the only thing in Creation that is our right to give. Women give blood once a month and in childbirth, and this is why there are ceremonial rights for such things and it is an honor to be a woman. But we men, we had to create a ceremony to give our blood and flesh. We do this to give to the Creator, and we do this in respect for the bleeding and childbirth that women must bear”. These words were spoken from a man in a ceremonial custom which has a special black lodge, away from all other spaces, where women reside during their menstruation. Yet, this remark clearly speaks reverence, not ridicule or patriarchal mentality.
Much misunderstanding is birthed from the view of Western mentality when peering into such customs. It seems, to a society attached to feminist ideas, that because a woman is removed and there are traditions that are exclusively for women, that it was somehow a forced concept by male power. Yet, this is farther from the truth than some would realize. In fact, in all that I have witnessed and experienced, such customs are in reverence to the power of the woman, not the inferiority. I believe we are the ones who invoke inferiority concepts to our women because we DON’T respect or recognize this power, and instead choose to replace ritual and ceremony with fast-paced lifestyles that do not allow us to remove ourselves and feel our own power.
A woman is not allowed in Sweat Lodge when she is bleeding because her energy is too powerful. It is believed that menstruation is a ceremony of it’s own: the Ceremony of Bleeding. And, as with the Sun Dance, I have heard from numerous sources within these ceremonial realms that the Ceremony of Bleeding is the inspiration for other ceremonies such as Sweat Lodge (among other reasons, of course).
Because Ceremony of Bleeding is considered a purification ceremony, as is the Sweat Lodge, there is no need for those ceremonies to intertwine. The Bleeding Ceremony is a private matter between Woman and Spirit, and when entering a ceremonial space, her ceremony becomes involved in the energy of the ceremony.
I have heard one Lodge Holder tell me: “The energy of ceremony, all ceremony, is clock-wise in spiral. But a woman who is bleeding carries the counter-clockwise energy of the spiral, and if these two forces collide, the ceremony can be chaotic. That is how powerful a woman is. She can effect the whole ceremony, everyone involved, through her presence and the power she is channeling at that time”.
Yet we are Western women. And so, birth controls replace fertility awareness (and all of the natural intelligence found therein), tampons and shame replace a ceremonial time of holy communion, work and school duties over-ride our women’s ability to fully become immersed in a spiritual time of self and Cosmos. Is it any wonder that upon peering into foreign cultures that we see with ethnocentric eyes a vast ocean of “female suppression” and “terrible actions”?
In the West, a majority of women are so far removed from such rituals, and our mentality of feminine power so preoccupied with “ending sexism” that we have disempowered our very right to be separate in power. Furthermore, as I travel to women’s groups in the U.S., I am finding more and more a vast body of women that feel WE are the suppressed ones, as our society has birthed a system of living detached from nature and we must keep in the rat race to keep ourselves afloat in this system.
In our Western culture, the deeply attached idea that women are suppressed and we must work and push forward to prove ourselves equal with men, is not a concept that I personally resonate with. Nor do I feel that we were ever suppressed, as that is a concept of the mind. Because women have adopted such ideas here, I feel is the very root of the ignorance many of us women now hold regarding the sacredness of our femininity. We do not isolate ourselves for a week when we bleed, our fast paced society does not allow such a removal when in a working/studious position.
The menstrual technologies that we have adopted are sometimes quite “shocking”. We promote the use of bleach-laced cotton to be inserted into our vaginal canals to block the blood flow, which has led to serious cases of Toxic Shock Syndrome where women have lost limbs. I have learned from the Vedic lineage (Maya Tiwari), that there are ancestral practices to actually control blood flow during the cycle. A woman can hold mudras, yoga poses, and chant mantras, to channel the release of blood, which is done by squatting on the earth. No menstrual technologies needed.
In my experience, it is not a common practice for Western Women to track their cycles, giving them empowerment in knowing their own fertility, how it aligns with the Moon and natural forces unique to each woman. Through fertility awareness, we not only can know when we are fertile and may become pregnant or not, we also begin to recognize the intricate nature of each phase in our cycle: Virgin/Warrior/Spring (post menstruation, pre-ovulation), Mother/Summer (ovulation), Shamanic Woman/Fall (post ovulation, pre menstruation), and Crone/Inner Lover/Winter (menstruation). Each of these phases can be observed, powerfully, each month, and are reflective of the totality of nature, a wisdom and communication that can be channeled during these times. I have even encouraged the adopting of totem animals or spirits for women to ritually connect to their own experiences with these changing energies. Each phase is unique in energy (i.e. hormones), and thus we transform as our bodies undergo these cycles. Yet, a majority of Western women are ignorant to this. We have, after all, replaced this awareness with birth control, the only modern aim for understanding our cycles.
A Moon Chart for tracking cycle phases http://www.mymoontime.com/
When Western women bleed for the first time, a subject matter of most interest to me, they are not met with a ceremony or initiation rights, but with a box of tampons and a lack of elder women to guide their experience through the passing of knowledge, ritual, or rites of Woman. We are a lost nation of Women. The Washoe women are not the only women who have initiation ceremonies for women coming of age, they are found all over the world. In these societies, there are also elder women, “Wise Women” as they are generally called. When a woman becomes of age, she learns deeply the arts of being a woman and channeling her energy according to her cultural customs, as passed by the Wise Women. Yet, the idea of this is shocking to most women whom I have heard their personal stories. It seems as though the subject of bleeding is one that our conservative culture wishes to avoid, maybe because of discomfort in addressing the issue, maybe because of ignorance to the depth in which it effects our lives as women.
himba initiation ceremony
The closing of a Himba Initiation Ceremony; an Elder Woman crowns the initiate.’ http://magazine.africageographic.com/weekly/issue-15/gallery-himba-women-namibia-alegra-ally/
And so, what would our world, as Western Women, be if we were to begin the re-surfacing of ancestral customs regarding feminine spirituality with our bodies and the Cosmos? What would our world be if our girls were initiated, educated in the arts of reading and communicating with nature through their cycles? What would our society see change if women were firm in their power, yielding not to societal expectations of working class? What would your life be like if a Wise Woman had mentored you in the Arts of being a Woman, handing you a sacred torch of ritual, ceremony, and power? What would our world be like if our women gathered for rituals and prayers, support and acknowledgement, and sharing of magic found therein?
I believe our world would change. And I believe, because these practices are derived from indigenous and ancestral cultures, that we can see past the veil of conditioned illusion when peering into the complex nature of descended feminine customs.
And so, in closing, I encourage women to contemplate their own cycles, fertility, and Ceremony of Bleeding in a ritual fashion, seeking ancestral wisdom through empowering ourselves into our born shamanic roles. Sisterhoods, arising all over the Western world, are vast in network and we can re-surface our rights as women through our connectivity. I also encourage a deeper look into some of the ethnocentric projections we place on cultures holding seemingly “feminine suppressive” practices, for their root is anything but. There is wisdom in the roots of humanity, and we have never been severed, else our tree would no longer live.
Cervical Dysplasia Link - Read Up & Health Up!
|Posted by novakafele on September 9, 2015 at 3:05 AM|
What exactly is Cervical Dysplasia? Read up, then Health up! Contact me for assistance and support if you need to, I'm here. I will show you how to make your own cervical suppositories and give you various healing techniques to bring harmony back to your womb/cervix.
|Posted by novakafele on January 24, 2015 at 11:40 PM|
Autoimmune Disease Information
|Posted by novakafele on July 11, 2014 at 11:35 AM|
Great text I found that I plan to purchase really soon concerning autoimmune diseases and cures. Just finished my daily discussion at school concerning the topic and how I was able to treat a baby in my Family with Colloidal Silver as she presented with 102 temperature and some condition that was new to me called, "Mouth, Hands & Feet Virus". Needless to say after administering what I did for the few days she was with me she went home healthy. So, I encourage my parents/Mommy's & Daddy's to invest in this book to learn more about autoimmune diseases in concern of my StarLilly Birthing Families as well as my Sistars who receive service from me with Yoni Steaming. There are conditions that Our Yoni's deal with that fall right into the category and just one teaspoon under the tongue holding for 30 seconds can help raise Our immunity and guard against the unnecessary.
Sent by my Loving Sistar whom I had the honor of assisting...I Love my Work!
|Posted by novakafele on July 11, 2014 at 11:35 AM|
This is a letter to fully recommend Nova Kafele as a birth worker and also a statement of appreciation and recognition for her great works in assisting my child’s birth into this world. As soon as the time of the birth came she was ready and present. She arrived as soon as the contraction began to transfer into a heavier stage , and she was living over an hour away from me. I accredit her for her dedication in arriving to me on time. She came right in and helped with literally EVERYTHING that needed to be done. And in a world full of tribulations it is an honor to right this letter , as I consider her to be a treasure , without exaggeration, she is a gem. This was the birth of my second son who we named , Selassie Ra Delali Akwasi Tutu Anani Shabaka. This was also my second home birth. During my first birth I labored mostly alone at home and some with my husband who was supportive, and who delivered the baby. After the baby was born a Doula arrived and helped deliver the placenta. Therefore this was a different birth for me in which a sister , mother and Birth worker was present for most of the heavy labor and the birth of the child. Nova’s willingness to help me was a joyous part of the painful and spiritual high experience of giving birth. Prior to her arriving we had been working all day to finalize the children’s rooms and prepare the space to give birth as always I was doing more than needed. She came in and finished all the arranging needed including folding the cloths and mopping the floor as we prepared for birth those things may not come on the resume but it was a blessing that day. She then helped to assemble an altar with myself and my King Man, as we took sacred statues and stones and pictures we all gathered. She secured my water supply and also gave me the needed tea/tincture including red raspberry and other herbs. As the contractions continued I was happy to have that hand to hold in the clean and prepared space she had assisted so much to prepare. She helped me go bath before I was unable to move. As my body began to move closer and closer to giving birth she was again amazing offering the comfortable companionship that a woman looks for in this time, a nurse, a queen , a goddess there are many words for her she was all that and more. Once the son came out my King Man delivered him and she was of great assistance throughout that whole process. She was also of great assistance in a safe and easy and soothing delivery of the placenta. I can not record every detail but I acclaim that she gave the necessary reassurance and strength as well as knowledge to help me get through the process. I highly recommend her again. I also would like to notate that she steamed me after the birth which was a healing experience to the fullest. It was entirely a healing and cleansing process. She as stated above also gave me the necessary herbs to assist with my healing including red raspberry and alfalfa. She was and is amazing. The stem helped to remove the afterbirth! The process was great just as the birth and my son now is.
Naja Rabena Nkrabia